What Are The Emotional Stages Of A Relationship Breakup

It does not matter who initiated the breakup, both people are still going to go through the emotional roller coaster that we all call coping. The person who was the one doing the dumping, will cope differently than the one being dumped.

Once you are informed of the different emotional stages and how to deal with them, you will be well on your way to coping much easier. It is important to go through each step fully in order to fully recover. These stages do not have a time limit to where they end or when they begin. It really all depends on the person and how confident they are with themselves, along with the type of support system they have.

The first major step in a relationship breakup is pain. More than likely this will hit fast and hard, though at first it may be covered up by the feeling of disbelief. That disbelief will soon pass, making the physical pain of the breakup feel unbearable. This physical pain can come with the loss of appetite and sleep and the want to crawl under a rock, to just be alone.

The second stage is denial. This is when you believe that it was all a mistake and that your ex thinks the same. You think that you two will work it out and everything will be okay. This is the stage in the relationship breakup, that you should really try to go through quickly in order to heal faster and move on.

The third stage is anger. You cannot believe that someone who said that they loved you could hurt you so bad. This is the stage that can be the most hurtful and thus you should be careful in handling this or you might sabotage any chances of getting back together. It is also best that you do not become overly bitter, this could carry over into your new relationship, then you will not be able to have a healthy relationship.

The fourth stage is grieving. This stage, unfortunately, is the hardest one to get out of. Many people believe that their lives are over and that they will never love again. They spend their days mourning over and thinking about the relationship they once had. You do not have to be this way though. I know it is hard, but really there are a lot of people out there and though your last partner may have seemed unique and 'the one' for you. They really were not what you thought. If they were then the relationship would not have ended in the first place.

The fifth step is acceptance. This is the hardest stage to get to, but once you get there, you will feel much better and be able to finally move on. This is the point were you realize that it is truly over and you start thinking of the future instead of the past. This time can actually be a good time. Instead of dwelling on the ended relationship, you are excited about the thought of finding love again.

Once you know more about what the emotional stages of a breakup are and how to deal with them, you can be on your way to a healthier life and a new relationship. Just remember that all people go through these stages, so the stages are normal and that the quicker you get through them, the quicker you can move on. Just try not to give up.